Tough Love for Virgo Signs - Crystal Experiments

Virgo runs from August 23rd through September 22nd. Known as “the virgin,” for some weird reason, Virgos are known to be steadfast, practical and loyal. If your birthday is closer to the beginning, you might want to read the Leo post also, since there is some crossover.

If you’re reading this, you’re probably a Virgo (or know a Virgo) who’s having a tough time in life.

Trust me, I get it. I am a Virgo and I’m posting this SEVERAL DAYS LATE into Virgo season; that’s how poorly things are going right now. This is a dose of tough love for all of us who are going through it. Sound like you?

You’re in the right place! We’ll go over our personality traits, good and bad, and discuss ways we can improve our situation.

Maybe you don’t know what exactly is wrong. Maybe you do, but you don’t know how to solve it. Either way, you’ll find some tips here to help you through!

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Virgo: Why Your Life Sucks and What to Do About It

I am a Virgo, so I’m obviously not here to drag Virgos. I need to follow this advice myself, so I’m definitely not trying to lecture to anyone! If you’re a fellow Virgo, let me know:

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If you’re having a tough time, here are a few things to consider:

1). You’re burnt out

Virgos are kings and queens of burning the candle at both ends. You’re always working on something and always thinking of ways to improve things. Multitasking is your middle name, and you pride yourself on checking off your To Do list every day. This is great, until it’s not. You may feel like you’re just going through the motions, unable to enjoy your daily tasks. Maybe you’ve hit a wall where you simply can’t do as much as you used to, because your head and heart isn’t in it.

The Solution: Take a break. Breathe.

Sometimes you need some space between yourself and the situation. You’ve been working so hard, you probably don’t even know what your goals are anymore. Take some time to yourself and figure out how to set boundaries. Not every moment of every day has to be productive, Virgo. You need to allow yourself to enjoy the moment and rest, just like everyone else.

2). You’re being too picky

Either you have too many options and you’re overwhelmed, or you aren’t happy with the options you have. This can lead you to reject every option, or never make a choice because you’re so worried you might choose the wrong one. Your powers of discernment are often unmatched. This is a gift, but Virgos tend to take everything to the extreme. If you dial back your extremeness, you can still use your gift to make the right decision.

The Solution: You’re going to have to make a choice, Virgo. Pick a side, even if you have to let go of your expectations a bit. Let go of the idea that there is only one “right” decision. Whatever you decide isn’t the end of the world. Pick something, move forward with it and learn along the way.

3). You’re holding a grudge

Look, sometimes people do NOT deserve a second chance. I totally get that and I’ve absolutely cut people off for good. However, if you are in a situation where you might have to let someone back in, try to remain objective. Have they shown an effort? Have they changed? Sometimes people can turn things around, and you may be hurting yourself by refusing a second chance.

Even if that person or situation hasn’t changed, you may have to just deal with it for a while, just to get through. Maybe your old high school bully is now a co-worker. Maybe your toxic brother-in-law is attending the same party. These are things you can handle for a short while, just to get through the day.

The Solution: Again, you do not have to allow second chances where none are due. However, examine yourself and this person objectively, as they are in this moment. Can you find any way to let the past slide, even for a bit? If so, great! If not, acknowledge that you are not willing to let this go and move forward without their toxicity.

4). You’re too self-critical

As much as we expect perfection from everyone else, that goes doubly for ourselves. We know that if we just work another 10 hours on this project, it could be perfect. Here’s the truth: Even if we did put in that all-nighter, the work would never be perfect in our eyes.

You may also be self-critical in an attempt to avoid future criticism from others. I do this a lot. I hate everything I write, so I work harder to write better. I’m never 100% satisfied with it, and of course, it gets criticized by strangers, which makes me hate myself even more.

The Solution: Give yourself a break, Virgo. Trust me. I’ve definitely beat myself up for only doing 39 of the 40 things on my To Do list. You’re human. Sometimes things just don’t go the way you planned.

Allow yourself some grace. Also, remember that your best is good enough. “Done” is better than “perfect.”

5). You’re worried over nothing

Raise your hand if you pick the one potential disaster and focus on it. Same here. How many times have we done this and it turns out fine? When we focus on the worst-case scenario, we drive ourselves to be MORE critical in an attempt to prevent it. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The Solution: You’ll need paper and a pen for this one. Draw three columns down the page. In column 1, write the “Worst Possible Outcome.” In column 2, write the “Best Possible Outcome.” In column 3, write the “Most Likely Outcome.” This is what it might look like:

Once you’ve seen ALL of the potential outcomes, you can focus less on the worst one and consider that any of them *could* happen, but what is most likely to happen will be fine.