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Gemini runs from May 21st to June 20th. Known as “the twins,” Geminis are curious, passionate and interesting.

If you’re reading this, you probably are a Gemini or know a Gemini who needs to get their shit together.

You may not know WHAT exactly is wrong, or you may know but not know how to fix it.

This post will go over your traits (good and bad) and will show you what *might* be wrong, and how to fix it if so!

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Gemini: Why Your Life Sucks and How to Fix It

First, let me just say that both of my parents are Geminis. I’m not here to drag you at all, dear Gemini. In fact, let me know if you are one:

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If you’re going through a tough time, I’m here to help. Here are some things you might want to consider:

1). You don’t know what you really want

As “the twins,” Geminis often feel pulled in different directions. You may feel like you really want something one day, and really don’t the next. This is especially tough if you don’t have strong opinions one way or another.

Since Geminis are usually open-minded, you could try each of your options. Maybe try each one a little bit, or try them on different days or something. You can also get clarity on what you want by listing what you DON’T want and working backwards.

The Solution: Get clear on what you want, Gemini! You’re allowed to take a side or have an opinion. You’re allowed to want something and not something else. Here is a helpful article on how to figure out what you want. You may have to take some time and do some soul-searching, but it will be well worth it!

2). You’re forgetting past lessons

You tend to live in the moment and have a positive outlook at all times. This is great, except when it comes to repeating the same mistakes. Come on, Gemini. You *KNOW* they aren’t a good fit for you. You’ve been down this path before.

This doesn’t have to be about a relationship (although it could be). Are you repeatedly stuck in similar situations? Do you keep getting involved with a certain type of person? These are important things that can keep you stuck in a rut, and it’s easy to overlook when everything is a mess.

The Solution: You already know the answer here. Either you need to remind yourself of this lesson, or you need to put what you’ve learned into action. Write down facts, not feelings, then go from there.

3). You’re being too nice

You don’t like making waves, and you find it easy to fit in with multiple crowds. This is great, but it also allows people to walk all over you.

Being too nice backfires in several ways: First, you put yourself in positions you don’t want to be in. Resentment builds up inside of you, but you’re too nice to say anything, so you hold it in. This can lead you to cope in unhealthy ways, or to take it out on innocent parties. Second, the people you’re being nice to are not getting your genuine feelings or actions, which is not fair to them. Put yourself in their shoes: Would you rather hear an honest “no” than a resentful or dishonest “yes”?

The Solution: There isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer on how nice to be. However, you need to be honest with yourself. Do you REALLY want to help your weird cousin move? Do you have time for another errand or favor?

When you’re firm on your priorities, it will allow you to be firm on your boundaries. Remember that it’s not “mean” or “rude” to say no, especially if it comes from a balanced perspective.

4). You’re talking too much

Known for being sociable and outgoing, Geminis can get tangled in gossip easily. They can also spill others’ secrets, even if unintentionally. The more you talk, the easier it is to say the wrong thing.

The Solution: Make sure you are only sharing facts, and only with people who NEED to know those facts. Also, listen twice as much as you speak. Let other people finish their thought; you might find the answer there.

5). You’re too concerned with your image

Not everyone is going to like you, that’s just how it goes. It can be hard for gregarious Gemini to understand that sometimes, a side needs to be taken. If you’re so focused on how people will view you, you’ll both prevent yourself from taking action and hold yourself back from progress.

I’m going to drop a truth bomb on you: People already don’t like you. They either don’t like your personality, or they don’t like that you’re “playing both sides.” At this point, you might as well make a decision and go with it.

The Solution: Accept the idea that you can’t please everyone. This is a process, not something you do overnight. Work on increasing your own self-confidence (learn how here) so that others’ opinions don’t matter. Focus on the people who do like you and nurture those relationships; ignore the rest.