Tough Love for Cancer Signs - Crystal Experiments

Cancer goes from June 21st to July 22nd. Known as “the crab,” they are intuitive and enigmatic.

However, if you’re reading this, you may be (or know) a Cancer whose life sucks right now.

Don’t worry, I’m going to give you some tough love in this post. You’ll learn about what role you may be playing in this situation, and also how to fix it!

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Cancer: Why Your Life Sucks and How to Fix It

First, this is not a diss on Cancers. I have friends that are Cancers, and Ariana Grande is a Cancer, so no hate at all! In fact, let me know if you’re a Cancer:

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If you’re in a tough spot in life, these are some things you may want to consider:

1). You’re not speaking up

Cancers tend to keep all of their thoughts to themselves. While this is a great thing (and a talent other signs don’t have), it can come at a high cost.

You may not want to make waves at work. You may hope your friend didn’t mean to hurt you, but don’t want to ask. The problem is, most people are wrapped up in their own issues. They won’t notice if you’ve been unusually quiet, or they might assume everything is fine. This leaves you with unmet needs, and leaves them unaware that you have a problem.

The Solution: Whether for yourself or others, you may need to stand up and shout about what’s right. It may feel uncomfortable, but remember your goals and know that you have to speak up to be heard!

2). You’re letting your emotions take over

As a cold, stone-faced Virgo, I admire Cancer’s ability to cry when sad. However, sometimes you need to be pragmatic. Maybe that relationship doesn’t make sense when you take the butterflies out. Maybe that job sucks behind all of the excitement.

Letting your emotions rule can also mean that you fly off the handle and make decisions you’ll regret later.

The Solution: While I definitely feel that you should listen to what your emotions are telling you, it’s not always a good idea to let them lead. Before taking action, take a step back and be objective. Ground yourself and wait a bit before making a decision.

3). You’re being too loyal

Loyalty is, of course, a positive trait. However, Cancers can be so loyal to a person, they overlook red flags or bad behaviors. You might love someone, but if multiple people are saying the same thing, it may be time to reconsider. Also, if they’ve already hurt you several times, what are you still doing?? Come on Cancer, stand up for yourself!

You may have no choice but to be loyal in some cases. Maybe you really need this horrible job for a little while. Maybe you need to take your sibling’s side in this ridiculous fight. Just remember that your main loyalty should be to yourself, and no one should expect any more than that from you.

The Solution: Your loyalty to any cause, person or organization can become self-harming, so make sure you’re assessing the situation with open eyes and a clear mind. See #2 also and take your emotions out of it!

There is only so much you can do to help, and you need to remember to look after number one (yourself!) above all others. Is your loyalty constantly draining you? It may be time to re-evaluate.

4). You won’t take a risk

Moving to a new city, taking that course, saying yes to the dress. These things can stress a Cancer right out and make you run away. While there’s safety in predictability, you may be in a situation where you need to take that leap.

I totally understand being nervous, even terrified. You’re about to do something big, so it would be weird if you didn’t have nerves to go along with it! It’s okay to acknowledge your fears (and then again, see #2 to remove the emotion from the action).

The Solution: This is where the “Feel the fear and do it anyway” mentality is important. If the idea of the project itself is terrifying, break it into smaller pieces. For example, moving to a new city: Plan a trip to visit. Talk to people who live there. Look up events and opportunities in the area. Taking small steps will make the goal seem less scary and more accessible.

5). You’re making too many assumptions

Cancers can read people very well. This is great! However, your assumptions can be incorrect at times, and you may refuse to interact with people who could actually help you. This also applies to situations where you have a “hunch” about them and write them off immediately.

The Solution: Risk is scary, Cancer, but sometimes you gotta take it. The only way to know if you’re making a baseless assumption is sometimes in hindsight. Is the risk worth it? Only you can decide.